coley-mb.jpgI am Coley – “a southern girl with her Levi’s on and an open heart, wish I could save the world like I was super girl.” I am sensitive yet passionate, simple yet complicated, loving yet defiant, dependent on others yet independent. I have big dreams yet realistic goals. Sometimes I think people see me as a person who is hard to get to know. But once you do get to know me, I am in your corner all the way! I go out of my way to help the people I care about and have a hard time saying no. I have been cursed with the “savior complex.” I am very driven. I make my goals and I go after them. I am a people person, I like to shake things up and make things happen!

I am Super Mom to Noah, Birth Mom to Charlie, wife to J, angel Mom to Darcy, friend, sister, daughter, aunt, Christian, neighbor, confidant, writer….. I wear many hats!

Hobbies and Work

I’m a writer. I love words and I love to write so when writing for a living fell in my lap, I jumped at the opportunity and soon discovered that I was really good at it! I began writing about adoption professionally at AdoptionBlogs but over time have added other paid writing gigs to my resume. Check out the writing page for a list of where you can find me!

I’m also proud to be one of the founders and the director of BirthMom Buds, an organization that provides support to birthmothers and pregnant women considering adoption.


When I have spare time, which isn’t too often, you can find me spending time with my family and friends, crafting, digital scrapbooking, writing, or just hanging out. I love photography and really dig black and white photos.


Coley’s Hubby

I coelyandj2.jpgreally believe that everyone has a soul mate and sometimes they meet in high school, other times not until later in their lives, and sadly sometimes not at all. I was lucky enough to meet mine in 2001. J and I met online. Yes, you read that right, online. Although our first face to face meeting was in a sports bar where I was working part time on the weekends. Our first actual date was to a minor league baseball game on April 20th, 2001. We hit it off and shortly there after became inseparable. I knew he was the one after seeing his gentle ways with Noah and his nephews. He loves children and is very good with them. He has even become a coach for Miracle League, a special t-ball league for children with special needs. J proposed to me in a sports bar on the day after Thanksgiving in front of friends in 2001. We had a long engagement and tied the know on April 19th, 2003 in front of our family, friends, and 1200 other fans right before a minor league baseball game. Yep, the same place our first date was on just one day shy of two years later. Our wedding was turned into a promotion and became my dream wedding – well, a dream wedding on a baseball field. J works as a dock supervisor at a local shipping terminal. He is a Clemson football fanatic and a very good listener, provider, husband, and father. I really am lucky! 


Coley’s Kids

Of all the hats I wear, the most important hat I wear is that of “mother.” Being a mother is one of the most rewarding yet exhausting and challenging roles I have ever had. Being a Mom is very important to me – I am the mother of 3 children, who each have a very different story and all  hold a special place in my heart, no matter where they are!


Noahpro-pic.jpg is currently 11 years old. He was named after “the man God loved so much he gave us rainbows,” so I often call Noah my rainbow. He really is the center of my life. Noah is your typical 11 year old – he loves big dogs, the color blue, t-ball, and roller coasters just like many other 11 year olds. But Noah is special – he has cerebral palsy and epilepsy. Noah was diagnosed with cerebral palsy around the time he was 8 months old. A wheelchair is his main mode of transportation and you’d better watch out – he’s fast and will run you over! He has recently learned to walk in a walker though. Sign language is Noah’s main form of communication although he can hear just fine. It’s challenging being the Mom of a child with special needs but rewarding all at the same time!  


 Charlie is playing-with-cars.jpgcurrently 6 years old. When I got pregnant with Charlie due to a failed depo (birth control) shot, I was not ready to parent again. I chose to make an adoption plan for Charlie and placed him with a wonderful family. Our adoption is very open, which means I get pictures, phone calls, visits, etc… We are basically like extended family. His adoptive mom was even a bridesmaid in our wedding! To read my adoption story in its entirety, please visit the Founders Page at BirthMom Buds. 


Darcy is my little angel! darcys-balloons.jpgDarcy never made it to earth – God decided our baby should become an angel before making an earthly entrance. Darcy’s short life and death have affected my life so much. To learn more about Darcy, please visit Darcy’s Memorial Page.


And now you know LOTS about me!!! If you need to contact me, please do so by emailing me at coleybelle(at)gmail(dot)com!


5 Responses to “About Coley”

  1. Hello Coley

    I love your blog and would like to create a link.
    I am so sorry for the loss of little Darcy. It is not the best club to be a member of to acknowledge angelversaries.

    I also write for the same article hub you are submitting articles to, along with several others. I could send you some others that are more people friendly and get published quicker. Just let me know.

    Peace Love and Hugs from Above

  2. Good Morning Sunshine,

    I tried emailing you early this morning at your yahoo address and 2 weeks ago. Let me know if you received it.

    I will be interviewed today on around 12 eastern time. Call in if you have 5 minutes

    Peace Love and Hugs from Above

  3. Mams Says:


    Just thought I would leave a note here that your blog is great.
    It has that super “Coley” touch. I’m proud of youfor all your writing endeavours. I believe one day you will wrtie a book!

    Love you bunches……..Mom @–>–

  4. Kladle Says:

    Thank you for your comment on my blog about my adoption layout. We hold a very special place in our hearts for ALL birth moms! They truly are the unsung heroes in adoption.

    I was reading about your sweet son Noah. I have a younger sister who has cerebral palsy, however her’s is quite mild and only really affects the right side of her body. She is able to walk and communicate and is quite self sufficient. But still lives with my parents and probably always will. She’s 30 yrs old now.

    I’m so sorry for the loss of your sweet Darcy. I can only imagine how hard that is and was.

    Again thank you for your comment. You sound like an amazing person with a wonderful message that you share with all!

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