Charlie


There is a local group that we belong to for parents of kids with special needs. Every so often, they have big events that are kid friendly, wheelchair friendly, and give you a chance to socialize with other parents of special needs kiddos. About two weeks ago, they had an event at a local farm/pumpkin patch. There was a hayride, scarecrows to be built, homemade icecream, and of course pumpkins! Charlie’s sister was playing in a softball tournament all day long in our town so we went and picked him up and he got to go to the pumpkin patch with us! We had so much fun and the weather was just great; warm but not too warm. Below are a few of our day at the pumpkin patch!


They both loved the tractor but Noah didn’t understand why he couldn’t ride it!


Noah always gets a little baby pumpkin because it is easy for him to hold!


This picture cracks me up. It was taken on our weekend trip to the pumpkin patch. (More pumpkin patch photos soon!)

Don’t worry – Noah wasn’t harmed in the taking of this photograph. Charlie was only on his lap for just a few seconds and they both thought it was funny!

I have been meaning to write about Charlie’s birthday party for awhile now but just haven’t had the time/energy.

Charlie and his family came over on the Wednesday following his birthday party for our little mini party that we have each year. I thought it would be fun to make our own little pizzas so we had the small individual size pizzas and I had all the toppings ready when they got here and everyone made their own little pizza. It was fun and different.

For his birthday, I made him a Clemson memory board. I also made one for Noah and they turned out super cute. I will post pictures of them soon. I also gave him a few books. He can read the level two reader books so I got a few of those. And Noah picked him out a little garage (or something like that) that came with a few cars that is from the movie Cars. It seems like I gave him one other thing but I can’t remember what!

He’s so funny and he talks non stop! He is very opinated and will tell you exactly what he thinks of both presidental candiates! He asked me if I knew who Thomas Kincade was and I asked if he meant the artist and he says yes. I was surprised – that’s not the type of thing I expect a 7 year old to know!

So, here’s a few more pictures…….


I love this one! It really shows his funny personality. I wanted to get a photo of him in those sunglasses to put in a double frame next to a photo of Noah in those glasses.


We stole this pose from my friend Leah! I hope she doesn’t mind but she always has cute poses like this of her (birth) daughter, herself, and her daughter’s adoptive Mom.


I was in a black and white mood when I was editing these photos. Can you tell? 😉

Today is Charlie’s (my birthson) birthday! It’s hard to beleive that he is seven years old. It seems like only yesterday I was holding him as a tiny baby in the hospital preparing to let him go.

Over the seven years that I have been Charlie’s birthmother my life has changed drastically. I was given a second chance and I have sincerely tried to make the most of that second chance. I’ve tried to be the best Mom to Noah and an advocate for birthmothers. While I know placing Charlie for adoption was the best choice I could make at that time in my life, that doesn’t mean that my heart doesn’t ache at times.

Birthdays are bittersweet. I usually get to spend time with Charlie and his family on his actual birthday. This is the first year we haven’t been able to do that. Charlie’s Mom’s best friend’s husband (that’s my mouth full!) died and the visitation was last night and funeral today so it just didn’t work out to get together today. A (Charlie’s Mom) wanted to try and get together tomorrow evening but I’m afraid that will mess up Noah’s routine too much and (I hope this come out the wrong way) he is my priority. She may try and re-arrange things so we could get together Sunday afternoon but I’m not getting my hopes up in case it doesn’t work out. If nothing else, I’ll see Charlie next weekend for his birthday party.

Happy Birthday Charlie!

(Photo taken on Charlie’s 6th birthday)

Charlie's Kindergarten GradMy birthson, Charlie, graduated from Kindergarten on Thursday. I was invited and it was a cute kindergarten graduation.  When he saw me, his Mom, his Dad, and his sister in the audience, he started waving wildly.

There are so many little things I see in Charlie that are things I did as a child.  For example, when the children were on stage and done singing, Charlie bowed. He was the only child (out of about 40-50) who bowed. When I told my Mom, she laughed and said it sounded like something I Charlie's candy bouquetwould have done at that age. Charlie also got the award for “music student of the year!” I am one proud birthmomma. 🙂

I wanted to get Charlie a little something for this occasion but was at a loss as to what to get him. I finally decided to try making him a candy bouquet. I had never made one of these before but thought how hard could it be, so I set to work and it turned out so cute. It was really fun to make and I really want to make more now! The best part is though – he Charlie and his candy bouquetloved it! When he said the blessing at lunch (we went to lunch afterwards) he thanked God for me and for the “great gift Coley gave me!” So special!

He cracks me up because he talks so much. In fact, I have nick named him “Mouth of the South jr.” because in Kindergarten my teacher nicknamed ME “Mouth of the South.” When asked what he wants to be when he grows up he lists a bunch of things – in fact, it was 11. I can’t remember all of them but a few of them (and this is the way he worded them) were “dinosaur digger, doctor, scientist, teacher, house seller, and car keeper.” I told him he was going to be in school forever to do all those things – he didn’t like that thought! ha!

So I seriously don’t know how much is too much to buy my bson for Christmas. I am just struggling with it big time this year, so much so that I wrote a post about it on my “professional blog.” This has never been an issue for me before but his amom just gave me some really good ideas for gifts this year and it has me wanting to buy him EVERYTHING I see!

I decided to limit it to a few things but then I listened to what some other bmoms bought for their children and my gifts are small in comparison. Not that I am comparing, but I thought I was going overboard and clearly I am not if others are doing more.

Ugh! I don’t know where the boundaries are on this issue!

char-6th-bday.jpgIt’s hard to beleive that Charlie is now six years old! His family came over for our traditional birthday dinner.

It was great to be able to see Charlie and family, spend time with them and celebrate his sixth birthday in person with him. That little boy has so much energy! He talks a mile a minute too; just like I did when I was his age. I think I may even pass down the nickname my teachers gave me when I was his age; “mouth of the south!” He also loved his gifts and immediately been playing with this small racetrack with cars that I gave him. Apparently he saw it in the store and has wanted it, although I wasn’t aware of that when I bought it. I just thought he might like it – and turns out he did! He was more affectionate this time than he has been in the past, coming over and giving me lots of hugs.

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